Communication

I'm actually quite sensitive.

If you tell me, in words, that you are not interested, then - if you change your mind - you have to tell me the same way. Having a girl tell me that she is not interested, and then behaving as if she is, has already once broken my heart. I am not going to let that happen again.

So, if I seem disinterested, it is because you have made it clear you are not interested. If your behaviour expresses interest, I will ignore that behaviour. My heart is too fragile to put it through that all over again.

In particular, if you tell me you are not looking for a relationship, I will take those words as true. I know that women lie. But it is too confusing to try to work out when they are lying and when they mean something. In spite of my rational instincts, I am the sort of person who believes people, unless they have lied so extensively that I have been seriously hurt. Thus, I will presume that you are always telling the truth.

So why did you hold my hand in the car when I dropped you off? You know that I take that as a sign of something more. Nonetheless, I will treat that act as meaningless. I refuse to have my heart broken again.

Robert